Stop Accusing Yourself

Your advancement in life largely depends on how you treat yourself. Often, we care more about how others treat us. We want their love, their respect, and their kindness. Yet, how you treat yourself is far more important than how others treat you.

If you treat yourself right, you’ll have enough self-esteem to stand up against bullies and those who cannot see the good in you.

Today, I want to talk to you about “Stop Accusing Yourself.” In the Bible, the devil is described as the accuser who, day and night, accuses people before God (Revelation 12:10). When they read this text, most people assume it’s referring to a creature somewhere called the devil who goes about accusing people.

But I’d like to point out that the only accuser there is, is you. People don’t need a separate devil to accuse them, because they already do a good enough job of accusing themselves. In a court case, if the defendant accuses himself of wrongdoing, the prosecutor’s job is made easy.

No accusation can affect you unless you endorse or affirm it. If an accusation works against you, it means you’ve agreed with it.

And remember, if you accuse yourself of anything, you must suffer the consequences thereof. This is a universal, spiritual law. Jesus stated the law thus, “by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned” (Matthew 12:37). You cannot escape this law, so watch what you say about yourself.

There are two things you’ll do well to remember.

First, to accuse yourself is to accuse God. The reason is simple. You and God are inseparable. Therefore, always affirm yourself in the most positive terms. Speak only what’s true of your Higher-Self, because your Higher-Self is your truth.

Second, each time you accuse yourself, either by your words or thoughts, you’re acting as your own devil. Don’t go through life being your own enemy. There are enough people who already accuse you of this and that. The last thing you need is to side with the prosecutor in your own case.

No matter what you’ve done or failed to do, never accuse, or condemn yourself. The most potent form of accusation is self-accusation. It is the fastest route to self-sabotage. Self-accusation will fuel the very fire you’re hoping to quench. It will dampen your spirit, inflict guilt, and keep you from accessing higher levels of personal growth.

Moreover, it’s important that you don’t identify yourself with the wrong you’ve done. Identify yourself, instead, with the Creator’s image which you are. That’s the only way to start heading in the right direction.

If you realize you’ve acted in error, don’t focus on the error. What gets your attention, gets amplified. Take a moment and still yourself. Turn your attention to your Higher-Self.

Truly see this Perfect Self, created in God’s image and likeness. Just look. Don’t think. Don’t analyze, and don’t judge. Just observe and see the Pure, Beautiful, Spotless, Perfect Soul you are. Then, draw strength to do better next time.

Say no more, “I AM guilty,” “I feel so bad,” “I AM such a terrible person,” “I deserve to be punished,” “I AM not worthy,” “I hate myself,” “I AM so silly,” “I AM the worst,” “I AM so dumb.”   

No matter what you’ve done, you deserve unconditional love, not self-hate. Self-hate will rob you of the energy you need to be better. Love alone can expand and uplift you. Therefore, give yourself more love, more acceptance.

Love & Light

Stephen