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YOU DESERVE BETTER

Recently, I met a young woman who works for one of the largest supermarkets in the US. She was unhappy with conditions at work. She felt her boss took her co-workers’ concerns more seriously than hers. Yet, the boss knew she was more competent and hardworking than the others.

After listening to her, I said, “Your boss treats you that way because he has studied you. He knows you’re more accommodating than the others, and he’s taking advantage of it. If you want to be treated differently, let him see your uncompromising side.”

In life, how people treat you is based on how you carry yourself and what you’re willing to tolerate. If you project weakness, they’ll take advantage of you. If you act like a clown, you’ll get a clown’s treatment. Therefore, it’s important to send the right signals about yourself. This is particularly relevant at the workplace and in personal relationships.

At the workplace, your employer won’t give you a raise out of the goodness of his heart. If you think you deserve a raise, you must speak for yourself. And make sure your performance is your strongest advocate. Also, your co-workers are your competitors. If you let them, they can step on you to further their careers. It’s important to project confidence. At the same time, do not let anyone take you for a fool. You deserve better.

In personal relationships, you deserve to be treated with respect. Make it clear that this is what you deserve, and you won’t settle for less. Similarly, in a marriage or romantic relationship, you deserve to be happy. Some people put their relationship first and their happiness second. That’s a mistake. You don’t have to suffer. You deserve better. If you must choose between being in a relationship and being happy, choosing the latter is a wiser course of action.

When dealing with people, sometimes, you need to force the issue. Don’t wait for others to treat you better. Make them know you deserve better. Take a bold step that reminds them you won’t settle for less happiness, less love, or less appreciation.

So long as people know they can treat you badly and get away with it, they’re in no hurry to treat you differently. Among the Ashantis, there’s a saying, “If people hurt you and you feel no pain, they won’t stop hurting you.”

If you want people to treat you better, you must send the right signals. When they mess with you the first time, make them regret it. The next time they’re tempted to step on you, they’ll think twice.

A final note:

Everything you expect from others, give it to yourself first. If you expect to be respected, let others see that you respect yourself. If you want others to love you, let them know you love yourself. If you want others to be kind to you, be kind to yourself. You get the point. Don’t expect from others what you’re unwilling to give to yourself.

You deserve better, so start by treating yourself better.

In love & light

Ogoe

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UNDERSTANDING THE LAW OF USE

Success at all levels is governed by spiritual laws. The right understanding and application of spiritual laws will guarantee success. Today, I want to talk to you about one such law: The Law of Use.

The Law of Use can be stated as follows: The more a thing is used and enjoyed, the more abundantly there is to be used and enjoyed. The converse is true: The less a thing is used and enjoyed, the less of it there is to be used and enjoyed.

The Law of Use operates under a two-fold principle. Therefore, to have more and enjoy more, you must practice the following:

First, use what you already have. This includes everything you own, from your cellphone to the shoes you bought for Christmas. Use it often. Act like there’s always more for you to use. The more you use something, you’re showing appreciation for it. And, what you appreciate tends to appreciate. Not only that, what you appreciate will appreciate you.

As an example, if you have 20 pairs of shoes, wear them often. If you must wear a different pair of shoes every day, so be it. It’s nobody’s business. The things in your life are there to serve you. Let them feel your presence often. Let them feel the presence of their master. If you have something you hardly use, let others have it. The key is to keep things in motion. The Law of Use demands that the things in our possession are put to use.

If you hold on to things without necessarily using them, you’ll inevitably create an energy of stagnation around you. You don’t want that.

Second, enjoy what you use. Feel truly happy when you use anything. When you drive your car, feel joyful about it. When you wear your shoes, feel the joy it brings you. When you buy something for yourself or another, feel the joy of purchasing power. Act like you always have enough money, and that the price of an item doesn’t scare or bother you.

Don’t be indifferent. If you’re indifferent to the things in your life, those things will be indifferent to you. The key is to feel joyful about anything you use to make your life meaningful. It’s the reason the Scripture says, “God loves a cheerful [joyful] giver” (2 Corinthians 9:7). The joy of giving is as important as the act of giving. Likewise, the joy of using something is as important as using the thing.

Remember, the Law of Use is what activates the Law of Abundance. This principle is illustrated in the Parable of the Talents (Matthew 25:14-30). The key lesson in the parable is summed up as follows: “to everyone who has, more will be given, and he will have abundance; but from him who does not have, even what he has will be taken away” (v. 29).

Abundant living is more about attitude than the amount in your bank account. An attitude of abundance is what channels the flow of abundance. To those who say, “God knows I don’t have much,” I say, please don’t put words in God’s mouth. God knows you more than you know yourself. He knows you’re rich, because He made you so, in His exact likeness. You’re rich; you just haven’t accepted yet that you’re rich.

To experience abundance, you must express abundance.

Apply the Law of Use in your life today. Use more and enjoy more of what you already have.

Love & Light

Ogoe

Stop Accusing Yourself

Your advancement in life largely depends on how you treat yourself. Often, we care more about how others treat us. We want their love, their respect, and their kindness. Yet, how you treat yourself is far more important than how others treat you.

If you treat yourself right, you’ll have enough self-esteem to stand up against bullies and those who cannot see the good in you.

Today, I want to talk to you about “Stop Accusing Yourself.” In the Bible, the devil is described as the accuser who, day and night, accuses people before God (Revelation 12:10). When they read this text, most people assume it’s referring to a creature somewhere called the devil who goes about accusing people.

But I’d like to point out that the only accuser there is, is you. People don’t need a separate devil to accuse them, because they already do a good enough job of accusing themselves. In a court case, if the defendant accuses himself of wrongdoing, the prosecutor’s job is made easy.

No accusation can affect you unless you endorse or affirm it. If an accusation works against you, it means you’ve agreed with it.

And remember, if you accuse yourself of anything, you must suffer the consequences thereof. This is a universal, spiritual law. Jesus stated the law thus, “by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned” (Matthew 12:37). You cannot escape this law, so watch what you say about yourself.

There are two things you’ll do well to remember.

First, to accuse yourself is to accuse God. The reason is simple. You and God are inseparable. Therefore, always affirm yourself in the most positive terms. Speak only what’s true of your Higher-Self, because your Higher-Self is your truth.

Second, each time you accuse yourself, either by your words or thoughts, you’re acting as your own devil. Don’t go through life being your own enemy. There are enough people who already accuse you of this and that. The last thing you need is to side with the prosecutor in your own case.

No matter what you’ve done or failed to do, never accuse, or condemn yourself. The most potent form of accusation is self-accusation. It is the fastest route to self-sabotage. Self-accusation will fuel the very fire you’re hoping to quench. It will dampen your spirit, inflict guilt, and keep you from accessing higher levels of personal growth.

Moreover, it’s important that you don’t identify yourself with the wrong you’ve done. Identify yourself, instead, with the Creator’s image which you are. That’s the only way to start heading in the right direction.

If you realize you’ve acted in error, don’t focus on the error. What gets your attention, gets amplified. Take a moment and still yourself. Turn your attention to your Higher-Self.

Truly see this Perfect Self, created in God’s image and likeness. Just look. Don’t think. Don’t analyze, and don’t judge. Just observe and see the Pure, Beautiful, Spotless, Perfect Soul you are. Then, draw strength to do better next time.

Say no more, “I AM guilty,” “I feel so bad,” “I AM such a terrible person,” “I deserve to be punished,” “I AM not worthy,” “I hate myself,” “I AM so silly,” “I AM the worst,” “I AM so dumb.”   

No matter what you’ve done, you deserve unconditional love, not self-hate. Self-hate will rob you of the energy you need to be better. Love alone can expand and uplift you. Therefore, give yourself more love, more acceptance.

Love & Light

Stephen

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What’s Your Excuse?

To get ahead in life, it’s important to liberate yourself from encumbrances. One such hindrance is in the form of giving excuses. It’s easy to give excuses. It’s cheap and readily available. It’s like self-pardon. It can provide temporary relief. But in the end, excuses weaken your drive to succeed. Excuses stifle motivation and creativity.

Be wary of excuses, especially the ones you tell yourself. Unless you’re required to provide an excuse, it’s best to avoid it. Offer excuses sparingly, if at all. Keep your life free from excuses, and you’ll be free to move forward.

Giving excuses is a form of self-pity. It might make you feel comfortable for a while, but over time, your creativity and motivation will suffer. You don’t need to explain to yourself or to anyone why you can’t do ‘X’ or ‘Y.’

A lot of people experience stagnation because they have an excuse for everything. They convince themselves they have a reason for not been able to advance in life. It’s their mom, their dad, their ethnicity, the sickness, the government, the pandemic, the economy, the unfair boss, their spouse, the kids, the traffic, lack of support, and so forth.

Once you accept a reason for your inability to go where you need to go and do what you want to do, you have no incentive to move forward. You lose momentum. In this condition, you feel you deserve sympathy and understanding. But in the long run, you’re hurting yourself.

Offer no more excuses. Don’t expect sympathy. Don’t even seek compassion. Just get up and do something. Get up and move forward.

Believe in your Higher-Self. Believe you have something to offer. Believe there’s an answer for your situation. The answer won’t come from outside. It will come from within you. Remember, Christ-in-you is your hope of glory (Colossians 1:27). As Mariah Kelly said in her celebrated song, Hero, “A hero lies in you.” Instead of waiting for someone to come along and rescue you, look to the hero within you and draw strength. Make a move, no matter how small it seems.

The Universe responds to your intention and action. You can have the most wonderful intention, but if you don’t act on it, nothing will change. Act on your intention. Act on your hopes. Take a step forward. Every step counts.

Stop drowning in your own self-pity and myriad of excuses. If you want things to move, you must move first. If you want things to change, you must change first. It’s the Law of Prosperity.

Don’t wait for God to pass by. God has already moved. It’s you who needs to move.

Consider the story in John 5:1-9. It tells us of a man who had been paralyzed for 38 years. During those years, he sat at the pool of Bethesda waiting and hoping for a miracle of healing. When Jesus asked if he wanted to be healed, he couldn’t say “Yes” or “No.”

Instead, the man offered an excuse, suggesting he was unlucky because each time the angel stirred up the water, someone got to the pool ahead of him. Many people are like this man. They’ve unconsciously chosen a life of stagnation by finding excuses for their supposed misfortune.

Let go of your need for excuses. Stop telling yourself reasons why you’re unable to get ahead in life. Instead, look for reasons to move forward. When you make a move, the right forces will align to help you get to your destination. Get up from the bed of excuses. Start working on your goals.

Love & Light

Stephen

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No Bad Days

You are the prophet of your own life. Say it: I AM the prophet of my own life. As a prophet, your words carry weight. Those who understand this are careful about what they say.

There’s no such thing as a ‘useless’ word. Your words will always return to you with a corresponding manifestation. Say it: My words will always return to me with a corresponding manifestation.

Knowing this, Jesus declared, “every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment” (Matthew 12:36). What seems idle in our eyes isn’t so in the vibrational or spiritual ream. Therefore, we all must reap the fruit of our words. The “day of judgment’ isn’t some future date far removed from now. No. We’re dealing with the consequences of our words right now, right here.

You’re not having a bad day because the day is bad. You’re having a bad day because you’re saying and thinking the day is bad. You can’t have a bad day, but you can create a bad day with your thoughts, words, and feelings. There are no bad days.

A day is just that, a day. It’s not the job of Tuesday or Friday to make you feel great. How you feel is your job, not the day’s. Understand, feeling is a choice.

Regardless of prevailing circumstances, you can choose to feel wonderful or choose to feel miserable. Neither hormones, the weather, your kids, your boss, nor the black cat can make you have a bad day. The day is what you make of it. You make the day. The day does not make you.

You are the boss of your feelings. Say it: I AM the boss of my feelings. As Rev. Frederick Eikerenkoetter used to say, “tell your feelings how to feel.”

Every day you wake up, understand that you’re the creator and prophet of your day. Don’t just hope for a good day. Create the kind of day you want. Be intentional about it.

As you get up from bed, take a few moments to speak, feel, and think positively about the day. With feelings of gratitude and with your eyes closed, you can say, for example:

 “I bless and sanctify this day. I call this day good. I feel grateful for this day. I feel wonderful. I am having a wonderful day today. I welcome [open your arms wide], accept and embrace all the blessings of love, joy, happiness, health, prosperity, and money that God has for me this day. It is so.”

You may not control what happens in the day, but you can always control how you feel about what happens.

Say good things about your day, no matter what. Use your prophetic power to steer your life in the direction you want. The more good you speak, the more good you’ll draw to you.

No more “I’m having a bad day.” Say, rather, “Goodness and mercy follow me all the days of my life.”

Love & Light

Stephen

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