Stop Accusing Yourself

Your advancement in life largely depends on how you treat yourself. Often, we care more about how others treat us. We want their love, their respect, and their kindness. Yet, how you treat yourself is far more important than how others treat you.

If you treat yourself right, you’ll have enough self-esteem to stand up against bullies and those who cannot see the good in you.

Today, I want to talk to you about “Stop Accusing Yourself.” In the Bible, the devil is described as the accuser who, day and night, accuses people before God (Revelation 12:10). When they read this text, most people assume it’s referring to a creature somewhere called the devil who goes about accusing people.

But I’d like to point out that the only accuser there is, is you. People don’t need a separate devil to accuse them, because they already do a good enough job of accusing themselves. In a court case, if the defendant accuses himself of wrongdoing, the prosecutor’s job is made easy.

No accusation can affect you unless you endorse or affirm it. If an accusation works against you, it means you’ve agreed with it.

And remember, if you accuse yourself of anything, you must suffer the consequences thereof. This is a universal, spiritual law. Jesus stated the law thus, “by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned” (Matthew 12:37). You cannot escape this law, so watch what you say about yourself.

There are two things you’ll do well to remember.

First, to accuse yourself is to accuse God. The reason is simple. You and God are inseparable. Therefore, always affirm yourself in the most positive terms. Speak only what’s true of your Higher-Self, because your Higher-Self is your truth.

Second, each time you accuse yourself, either by your words or thoughts, you’re acting as your own devil. Don’t go through life being your own enemy. There are enough people who already accuse you of this and that. The last thing you need is to side with the prosecutor in your own case.

No matter what you’ve done or failed to do, never accuse, or condemn yourself. The most potent form of accusation is self-accusation. It is the fastest route to self-sabotage. Self-accusation will fuel the very fire you’re hoping to quench. It will dampen your spirit, inflict guilt, and keep you from accessing higher levels of personal growth.

Moreover, it’s important that you don’t identify yourself with the wrong you’ve done. Identify yourself, instead, with the Creator’s image which you are. That’s the only way to start heading in the right direction.

If you realize you’ve acted in error, don’t focus on the error. What gets your attention, gets amplified. Take a moment and still yourself. Turn your attention to your Higher-Self.

Truly see this Perfect Self, created in God’s image and likeness. Just look. Don’t think. Don’t analyze, and don’t judge. Just observe and see the Pure, Beautiful, Spotless, Perfect Soul you are. Then, draw strength to do better next time.

Say no more, “I AM guilty,” “I feel so bad,” “I AM such a terrible person,” “I deserve to be punished,” “I AM not worthy,” “I hate myself,” “I AM so silly,” “I AM the worst,” “I AM so dumb.”   

No matter what you’ve done, you deserve unconditional love, not self-hate. Self-hate will rob you of the energy you need to be better. Love alone can expand and uplift you. Therefore, give yourself more love, more acceptance.

Love & Light



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Why Do Christians Continue to Sin? (Pt 7)

Daily Devotion | Day 357

“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, whom God set forth as a propitiation by His blood . . .” (Romans 3:23-25, NKJV).

What Paul wrote in Romans 3:23 has gained popularity in many Christian circles. In fact, many Christians know that passage by heart. Even those who have not memorized it are familiar with its words. Different people quote the Bible for different reasons and for different purposes. Romans 3:23 is one of the most misused passages of the New Testament. It is misused because it is often taken out of context. Paul said a lot of things in his Letter to the Romans, often explaining a point over several lines. Therefore, it is irresponsible, and even dangerous, to pull a line from Romans and try to make a case out of that line alone.

Some quote Romans 3:23 as a justification for the recurrence of sin in the believer’s life and for his inability to cease from all sin. For them, what Paul said in that passage amounts to something like this: “Christians still remain sinful people. Consequently, though we should not sin, all Christians will sin from time to time. Everyone falls short of the glory of God. No one is or can be perfect. No one can overcome sin completely; it is just by grace that we all can approach God through the blood of Jesus.” Because of this thinking, many Christians live far below their calling (and ability) to live holy and righteous. Furthermore, this way of reading Paul’s words is unfortunate, for it creates a conducive environment for sin to continue among believers. To successfully respond to our calling to be holy, it is important that we read Romans 3:23 in context.

First of all, when Paul said, “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” he was stating the past sinful condition of Jews and Gentiles. He was in no way suggesting that this would be the condition of those who believed in Christ. Paul said, “all have sinned;” he did not say, “all will continue to sin or remain sinners.” There is a big difference between the two. In Romans 3:23, Paul was not describing the born again life. In the born again life, Christians do not fall short of the glory of God. On the contrary, as Paul himself admits, “we all [Christians], with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory . . .” (2 Corinthians 3:18). Therefore, to use Romans 3:23 to explain (or justify) the recurrence of sin among Christians misses Paul’s point. It further demonstrates a serious misunderstanding of what it means to be born again.

Another reason we cannot apply Romans 3:23 to Christians is because of what Paul says next in Romans 3:24. Paul writes that we are “justified freely by His [God’s] grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus.” This means believers have been washed from their sins and brought into a righteous condition before God. In addition, they have been redeemed from the bondage of sin. The problem of sin identified in v. 23 is countered by the solution of justification and redemption offered in v. 24. Therefore, Christians do not have an excuse to continue to sin. In fact, they have no business quoting v. 23 to justify why they remain sinful. Christians were sinners; but they no longer are sinners. They now are redeemed. An unredeemed person might have an excuse, but a Christian has no excuse; none. The problem in v. 23 is over. We now live in the reality of v. 24.

Unfortunately, many Christians fail to distinguish between the reality described in v. 23 and the one described in v. 24. As a result, they suffer from a crisis of identity. This crisis is largely responsible for the failure of many Christians to live without sin. To change this situation, we need to re-examine what the Scriptures teach about redemption and how redemption impacts our victory over sin.

To be continued tomorrow, God willing. Until then, know that you are redeemed. The power of sin is broken. Stand your ground and enjoy the redeemed life. In the Name of Jesus. Amen.

For further studyRomans 5:1-21

Your Words Shape Your Destiny

Daily Devotion | Day 280

“But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned” (Matthew 12:36-37, NKJV).

Human beings are unique among God’s creation. Part of our uniqueness is that we are creatures of speech. We possess the ability to form words and create language out of these words. Our words are the expression of our inner self. You are your words. That is, by your words you reveal who you are. In the spiritual realm there is no such thing as ‘meaningless’ words. Every word from your mouth has consequences even if you don’t intend there to be consequences. Therefore, words are not neutral. To borrow a term from the world of electricity, words carry a charge. They carry a positive charge or a negative charge.

The point is, in the spiritual realm words carry consequences. Intention is important, but it is not required. What matters is that you are speaking and you mean to speak. We’ve been miseducated about words. This explains why people say things and assume that their words are ‘nothing.’ It also explains why people say a lot of things followed by, “I was just joking;” “I was kidding.”

You may have noticed a pattern in the Bible, the book God has given for your instruction. You will find all kinds of stories in the Bible. One thing you will not find is a line intended to be a joke. Take every man of God in the Bible. Take Jesus and the Apostles. Jesus didn’t say one thing He meant as a joke. This doesn’t mean He was not an interesting Person. On the contrary, He was very charismatic. But people were attracted to Him, not because He was a comedian, but because of His authority (Matthew 7:28-29). You don’t need to crack jokes to be an interesting person. What you need is magnetic authority through purity of life.

Pay attention to what Jesus is saying in today’s opening Scripture passage. According to Him, on judgment day people will give account of every idle word they’ve spoken. By “idle word,” He means a word that in of itself is useless. He didn’t say people will give account of some idle words. No, He says “every idle word.” If your words didn’t matter, you wouldn’t be required to give an account of them. If your words didn’t carry any consequences, there would be no need for judgment.

Your words shape your destiny.

After saying this, Jesus adds another statement. He says, “by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” Your words can cause you to be justified or condemned. This means your words influence your destinyThrough your words you have a say in your destiny. You can use your words to your advantage or you can use them to your disadvantage. Jesus has done His part by teaching you the truth about words. What you do with His teaching is up to you. The choice is yours.

But I encourage you to choose life. Speak wholesome words for your own sake. Use your tongue to your advantage. A well-trained tongue is a well-trained soul. And, a well-trained soul is a healthy soul.

BlessingMay the favor of God be your shield in all your ways. Amen.

For further studyLuke 19:20-23; Ephesians 4:17-32; 5:1-21

Love Drove Jesus to the Cross

Daily Devotional: Day 98

“For scarcely for a righteous man will one die; yet perhaps for a good man someone would even dare to die. But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:7-8, NKJV).

Take a careful look at today’s Scripture reading. What you see is a succinct description of God’s love for you. The Bible says that even in normal life, it is rare for one to die for a righteous man; though perhaps for a good man, someone might consider dying for him.

The Bible is clear that Jesus died for a class of people called ‘sinners.’ Bear in mind that Jesus was sinless and spotless. He overcame every temptation and fulfilled God’s Law to the fullest. But, why would a sinless, innocent Man die for a sinner? After all, it is only fair that sinners should pay for their own sins. Well, the answer to that question is found in the famous four-letter word: love.

 The Bible says, God shows His love for us, in that while we were still sinners – not while we were good people – Christ died for us. If Christ had died for good people, you might say that His death makes sense. But what is the sense in the Innocent Son of God dying for sinners, most of whom are wicked and ungrateful? Why? Why would this Man die for people who didn’t deserve His love? Again, the answer is: God so loved us that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life (cf. John 3:16).

Jesus’ love for you drove Him to death. Jesus went to the Cross and shed His blood, because He believed, and still believes, that you are worth saving. See how He loves you. My question for you today is: Is this Man worth your love, your time, your devotion and your worship? I hope you said a big “Yes!!!”


My Father in heaven, your love for me is beyond my imagination. I know that it was this love that drove you to send your Innocent Son to die for me. Lord, I can’t thank you enough. Accept the humble sacrifice of my lifelong devotion to you. In the Name of Jesus. Amen. 

For further study: John 10:1-30